Archive for April 2006

Ya’ll may recall I had major lock angst last month and earlier this month, I was debating whether or not to cut my hair:Talk Me Off the Ledge I love the ease of having locks though, I can go weeks without doing anything at all to my hair other than washing it once a week. [...]

Recently over at hipmama I posted this article about how the Duke case reopens wounds for black women: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12305991/ I really pondered whether or not to post this there. For one NO one else posted ANYTHING at all about the Duke case, no one. and this woman is a mother. a student. and single. and [...]

“Oh – we didn’t mean you! You’re different!” Yes, I get that all the time from people who talk bad about single mothers who have children by multiple men. It’s like people really forget that my kids all have different fathers when talking to me about this. I’m talking family and even occasionally friends, not [...]

“If you don’t watch her, she’s going to be hot in the pants” my maternal grandmother said, talking with my mom one day about me. I had wandered over near my grandmother’s kitchen door after running around with my cousins. Always the slowest runner because of being knock-kneed and having breathing issues due to allergies, [...]

I do think the world would be a fantastic place if we all acted out of love and self-acceptance instead of shame and fear. I think people feel ashamed sometimes because they feel it was their fault that they are in the situation they are in. Even if it is, they still should have enough [...]

Say it loud I HAVE 3 KIDS BY 3 MEN and I’m proud the funny thing is, when I explain the how and why, most folks are usually like oh you poor thing! and view me as a good woman and mother as opposed to the slut/bad woman and mother who doesn’t deserve her kids. [...]

We had an ok Easter! We are not a christian family nor pagan but Brian and I appreciate the fertility/spring/renewal aspects of the easter holiday. and the kids love the candy; they got baskets from us and also had a easter egg hunt at my MIL’s. There were unfortunately 2 deaths in my family this [...]

I got to meet the brilliant and wonderful Aishah Shahidah Simmons! She is the writer, producer & director of the groundbreaking documentary No! I saw it at the AIDS Task Force of Greater ClevelandFriday, April 14, 2006.www.aidstaskforce.org Moving from enslavement of African people in the United States through present day, NO! moves from rage/trauma/emotional and [...]

What I do about cleaning is I schedule something every day. I do not do my daily chores all at once but interspersed throughout my day. What motivates me is that I do not do well in a dirty and/or chaotic environment…when my house is dirty it really affects how I feel; it creeps me [...]

Hey all you mamas out there (and partners of mamas, children of mamas, so like, everyone) I have been musing on doing a book on discipline for a while, ever since I stopped spanking about 6 years ago. I am not quite a gentle mama, though, but I think that’s ok. I’m thinking not a [...]

I am a coffee addict, pure and simple. I really need to quit, because coffee is very hard on the body. I am 34 now and I really need to get my health in order. People tell me all the time that I look like I’m in my early 20s, and certainly can act like [...]

DETROIT (AP) – A 5-year-old boy called 911 to report that his mother had collapsed in their apartment, but an operator told him he should not be playing on the phone, and she died before help arrived. The family of Sherrill Turner, 46, does not know whether a swifter response could have saved her life, [...]

Christian’s site has me wishing longingly (is that even a word, lol) that I had the time to hook my site up. I have a cute idea in mind for my blog and a nifty idea in mind for the biz section of my site. I really like his site, I tooled around it and [...]

Just like with flickr I’m the last person on the net to know about del.icio.us, but I finally signed on. It took me a while because I could not see how useful it would be to me, but since I signed on this morning I’ve found quite a few useful and interesting links I might [...]

Saw this on Writing is Fighting’s blog. This is SO TRUE: It is the lack of respect for a Black woman’s body that leads people to think that they can touch you when you do not want to be touched, that your body is not respected, like strangers wanting to touch your hair, men rubbing [...]

I just saw this on black academic’s blog, and I’m just so happy because I may be able to go to this screening. I did an interview with the director, Aishah Shahidah Simmons a few years ago when the film was still in production: Through testimonies from Black women survivors, commentaries from acclaimed African-American women [...]

I have good sprouts, so far my broccoli, tomatoes, radishes, green beans, carrots, and collards are sprouting well. Herbs that are sprouting are basil, parsley, and lavender. I am doing a container garden and will transplant these into containers in 2 weeks onto my balcony. I also planted oregano, okra, beets, cabbage, peas, corn, cucumber, [...]

Buy the Supple Mama Book I don’t know how I feel about Buffie the Body…on the one hand I feel she is a modern-day * Sarah Baartman, but on the other hand I feel she should go for it, make as much money off it as she can. My rear is not as big as [...]

TENSIONS very high at Duke University as Dancer Gives Details ofOrdeal (a different March Madness) A woman hired to dance for the Duke lacrosse team describes a night of racial slurs, growing fear and, finally, sexual violence. The woman who says she was raped last week by three members of the Duke University lacrosse team [...]

Feminist Alliances posted by Cheryl on Women’s Space. This is AWESOME: There are a lot of feminist women who are anti-pornography, anti-prostitution, anti-SM like me. Unfortunately, they are also racists. They don’t have any clue that they are. They think they aren’t. They rattle on cluelessly and say and do things which are hurtful, ignorant, [...]

Go head lil mama: BILLINGS, Mont. – After 41 rounds and 4 1/2 hours, Anna Rose Wright won the Treasure State Spelling Bee Saturday. “I have never seen a bee go this long,” said round judge Lynn Schwanke of Missoula, a previous state bee director for more than 20 years. “It was really remarkable.” Anna [...]

well, at least 1/4, LOL. I saw this on Blogdangit and just had to take the quiz: 25 % My weblog owns 25 % of me.Does your weblog own you?

Here are the main online groups and boards I’m a member of:Afro PunkCasa IndabaHip MamaMama TalkMama’s QuiltMamaphonicMSP Mama GroupMySpace PageNappturalityWomanismYou Grow GirlYouTube Page

My first plantings are growing well! I am so excited. This past week I did some more newspaper peat pots, I planted parsley, lettuce, cucumber, radish, beets, oregano, okra, peas, corn, cabbage, and pepper. Soon the first round of plantings will be ready to put in the big container pots and put out on the [...]