There. I said it. I have publicly declared my husband a slob. It gets on my nerves. For many years our bedroom looked like a high school boy’s bedroom. Slowly over time he got rid of or boxed his teenage stuff. When we moved where we live now, our bedroom has a big walk-in closet and a smaller regular closet. We originally shared it but when we almost divorced in 2002 I moved out of the bedroom and downstairs in preparation of moving into a separate house. Then we reconciled, but I just took the smaller closet rather than mix all my stuff in with Brian’s again. Because in the few months our stuff was separate the walk-in closet just exploded with all his clothes and stuff.

I keep our bedroom reasonably clean. I dust and make the bed and sweep the floor and do all the decorating. Sometimes I think my husband is immune to household beauty. He doesn’t seem to care or be fazed by how…blah and junky our bedroom looks. The floor on his side of the bed is all junky with his clothes and papers and shoes and what-all; mine is clear. His closet is a mess, my clothes are all hung or folded. His side of the dresser top is all piled with stuff, mine is neat and organized. It’s not like I’m a neat freak, far from it. I just pick up after myself. I don’t understand why he won’t do the same. If he did it would totally change the ambience of our bedroom.

I got a free calendar from the Wildlife Federation last year filled with large stunning colorful photos of various flora and fauna. Since I already have a planner with a calendar in it and wasn’t going to use the WF calendar, I cut the big photos out and taped them, along with some pics I got from a National Geographic magazine, up along the borders of the walls in our bedroom. I like it a lot myself, and Brian said he likes it. For our curtain originally Brian just threw a sheet! up but I replaced it with a long billowing kinda-sheer white curtain. We have a big plant on the floor and a smaller plant on the other window ledge, which is really long.

I want to do a make-over on our bedroom, and do it with Brian’s participation. He will probably say ‘Oh whatever you want is fine with me’ but I think if he gets involved he will be more likely to help keep our bedroom nice and tidy; welcoming. I want it to be a mix of both our personalities and styles. I think it will be interesting for Brian to discover what he likes as far as decorating. I am sure it really isn’t cardboard boxes and clothes strewn everywhere.